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What to do with too early wake ups?

Short answer: If your baby has suddenly started waking an hour earlier, sleep needs are rarely the cause, because they fall gradually rather than overnight. Four things to work through: try an earlier...

Are sound machines safe? Safe decibel levels for babies

Today I explore the topic of sound machines. Do they boost sleep in babies? What sound levels are considered safe? How should you use them?

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Was Ferber wrong?

Short answer: At nine months a typical baby takes two naps, sleeps close to 3 hours in the day and around 14 hours in total, which puts the average wake window at roughly 3.5 hours. Individual childre...

The lowdown on sleep cycles and wake windows

Short answer: A sleep cycle is one stretch of non-REM sleep followed by one stretch of REM sleep. In babies it lasts around 30 to 45 minutes, reaching about 60 minutes by the first birthday and 90 min...

I need adult sleep training!

Short answer: Yes, there is sleep training for adults. It is called cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia, or CBT-I, and it works on the same three things as baby sleep coaching: your schedule, yo...

Ouch! My LO bit me!

Short answer: A 15-month-old does not need to feed at night, so night weaning is safe. Two things keep the night feeds going: learnt hunger, meaning your child has learned to take some of her calories...

Toddler takes an hour to fall asleep: the four reasons

It takes more than an hour for my toddler to fall asleep — what should I do? Here are the four things that cause it, in the order worth checking.

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Does sleep beget sleep? Naps, later bedtimes and early waking

Does sleep really beget sleep? Three questions about naps, later bedtimes and early morning waking — and why the honest answer to each is “it depends, and here is on what”.

Short answer: does sleep...

Can I sleep train without night weaning? (And the other way round)

Sleep training and night weaning are two different things, and you do not have to do them together. Here is how to do either one on its own.

Short answer: can you do one without the other?

  • Yes, bo...
When night waking is a seizure: gelastic seizures and hypothalamic hamartoma

Today I tell the story of a baby who could only sleep for 8 minutes at a time — and of the rare condition behind it.

Short answer: when is night waking not a sleep problem?

  • Almost all night waking...
Putting a toddler and a baby to bed alone: what to fix, in what order

Two children, two different bedtimes, and one parent doing bedtime alone. The order in which to fix it: schedule first, then the routine, then the room, and sleep training only at the end.

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My newborn only sleeps when held: how to get him into the cot

A newborn who only sleeps in your arms and wakes the moment you put him down is doing exactly what newborns do. Here is what actually helps — and how to make the transfer work.

Short answer: my new...

Is it too late to sleep train a 1-year-old? (And do you need to?)

A mother of a one-year-old who breastfed to sleep, co-slept part of the night and never got round to sleep training asks whether she has ruined it. She has not.

Short answer: is it too late to slee...

Night terrors in toddlers (pavor nocturnus): is it a tantrum in the night?

In this episode I explain why a toddler might seem to throw a tantrum in the middle of the night — and why it is very probably not a tantrum at all.

Short answer: is this a night terror?

  • A night t...
Do I need to sleep train again after a sleep regression?

Your baby slept well for months, and now she suddenly needs nursing to fall asleep again. Is that a sleep regression, and do you have to sleep train all over again?

Short answer: do you have to sle...

How to stop co-sleeping with a preschooler without making bedtime a battle

A single mother of a nearly four-year-old has been lying next to her every night for three years. She wants her evenings back without making sleep frightening. Here is the order to do it in.

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Nap schedules with more than one child, and when nursery only does one nap

Three scheduling problems that have no perfect answer: a baby who needs two naps at a nursery that does one, two children on different nap schedules, and three children sharing one room.

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Screens, baths and lullabies: what belongs in a bedtime routine

Three of the most common bedtime routine questions: screens before bed, whether a bath belongs in the routine at all, and what to sing when you cannot sing.

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My baby falls asleep independently but still wakes at night

Your baby falls asleep on her own at bedtime and still wakes twice a night. Does that mean the sleep training failed? No — and here is what to do about the nights and the naps.

Short answer: bedtim...

Why baby sleep advice contradicts itself — and how I found what worked

How a 9-month sleep regression turned a theoretical biologist into a sleep coach — and what I learned about why sleep advice contradicts itself.

Short answer: which sleep training method is the bes...

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